Is it really Halloween tomorrow? Has the first fall holiday already descended?
Where has the time gone? When my children were at home, we had such fun decorating
the house. We carved pumpkins and baked
the seeds in soy sauce, worked tirelessly on costumes (always last minute changes), planned the trick-or-treat
route--it was all engrossing.
Now that Markus and I are alone, Halloween is, well, a bit
lame. Yesterday I went to my storage bins and pulled out my electrically lit
pumpkin, dusted it off and plugged it in.
Done. I sent off Halloween books to grandbabies. And I bought the necessary bag of Snickers candy
bars "just in case" we get a trick or treater, knowing full well we
haven't had a ghost or monster at our door in over four years and I'm just
going to eat the whole bag myself.
Even still... I get that glow that always comes on the eve
of a holiday. The air grows thick with
anticipation. I am a confessed holiday
nut. I love to decorate my house for all of the major holidays, saving the big
guns for Christmas, of course. Even then, however, with the children gone, and
with them some of my energy, I'm now taking a more relaxed approach. My children are no longer at my heels
pointing to their favorite decorations, oohing and ahhing with excitement at
seeing the decorations again and pleading for me to put it on display. There were years there wasn't an empty space
in the house for one more decoration.
Instead, now I enjoy being selective.
I choose my favorites, those that carry special memories.
In the box marked "Halloween" I spotted a raggedy scarecrow at the bottom. A sad, neglected thing. My heart clenched at seeing it again. This decoration once belonged to my mother. Late in life, in an uncharacteristic gesture, (the mother of ten children, after we all left she rarely decorated) she had purchased this scarecrow at some local store. For some reason I can't fathom, she really liked it and put it out every fall in the small condo she'd retired to after Daddy died. When she came to my house to live for the final months of her life, she brought this scarecrow with her. I inherited it by default. It wasn't an antique or coveted piece of silver or jewelry. I don't know why I kept it. I'm a pack rat, I suppose... I got teary eyed, of course, seeing it again as memories rushed.
Halloween, and more, Day of the Dead, is becoming for me not
a time for costumes or trick or treat, but more a time of remembrance. I look to the Day of the Dead and its connection with the
Christian triduum of Hallowmas: All Hallow's Eve, All Saint's Day and All
Soul's Day for a meaningful holiday. When I wrote The Butterfly's
Daughter, I wrote about what that holiday included for the Mexican culture-- building private altars
called ofrendas decorated with
marigolds, honoring the beloved departed by displaying there photos of loved
ones and their favorite possessions, eating their favorite foods. We
celebrate the lives of our beloved departed. Those whose memories brush against our hearts
and minds like the gossamer wings of the migrating monarch butterflies on their journey to sanctuary. This time of year is an opportunity to educate our young ones
of family members they've never met but whose memories still live on in our
hearts and minds. It is also a time
to remember the best of the living as we prepare for the great celebrations with family and friends to come.
I retied the sagging bow of that scarecrow, stitched a
slight tear, and put it in a place of honor by the front door. I set beside it a photo of my parents, thus making
my own simple ofrenda. I think of mama each time I pass it.
